Woman told a secret to her favorite coworker, who then spread it across the office: ‘[She] constructed a lie to make me look bad, made sure she wouldn't be held accountable ("please don't tell anyone I told you"), all while acting like my friend’

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Olivia Arocena • Writer and Editor
Sep 30, 2026 1:45 PM EDT

Sadly, sometimes your favorite coworker isn't also your friend

People disappoint us. I know this employee would've benefited from acting more maturely in this situation, but that wouldn't have changed the fact that her work bestie betrayed her.

I really don't think the solution to this type of issue is to stop trusting people. At some point, we should accept that things like this happen. If we walked around afraid that somebody will eventually betray us, we wouldn't be able to trust anybody, make friends, or fall in love- anything.

To make friends, you have to trust. You can be cautious, wait longer, whatever, but at some point you have to trust. The same goes for romance. We can be cautious all we want, but some people who will betray us won't tell us in advance through their demeanor.

Bad things happen, and we shouldn't generalize that and stop trusting altogether. We have to stop trusting only the ones who betrayed our trust and move on tomorrow, befriending better people; that's it.

This employee was shady for not confronting the guy and getting carried away by her anger, but well, sometimes our emotions get the best of us. I think if she had confronted him, she would've found out sooner that her bestie wasn't as great as she seemed. Two-faced people do exist! Sadly.

It might be hard to recover from the blow because the situation mattered to her, and to keep seeing the one who betrayed you every day is far from ideal, but time heals all wounds.

Maybe she can start plotting a very elegant and elaborate revenge. That would be interesting. I can't think of one, honestly. Should she confront her? Should she start another rumor about her? Should she leave everything in the past and be the bigger person? Who's to say?

What would you do in a situation like this? Please don't say find another job.

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  • I sht where I ate. then my favorite coworker betrayed me

    I work in the service industry. Lots and lots of drama at my job. Long sigh. So it was someone's birthday, we all had this crazy long night out. one thing led to another and it ended up hooking up with my coworker Thomas.
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  • I asked him, please don't go telling anyone, please just be cool, let's just keep this between us. Didn't want any drama (famous last words). He says yeah, for sure. Next day, we all work together, and my favorite coworker Emmy
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  • pulls me aside. She said, "Hey I just wanna let you know, Thomas told me and (names like 6 people) that you guys hooked up, but please don't tell anyone I told you, because I wanna be cool with everyone." Instantly I'm annoyed, but
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  • whatever, it's classic, I should've known better, boys will be boys or whatever. Fuck. I thank her profusely for letting me know. So for the next month or so, I'm giving Thomas the
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  • cold shoulder. The guy keeps texting me, and I'm pissed so I don't even respond. He says hi to me at work, I don't respond. I wasn't trying to punish him or anything, I just felt annoyed and betrayed that he did the ONE thing I
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  • asked him not to do. Word gets back to me that he feels like I used him for sex, he's pretty sad about it, and I can tell that a lot of our coworkers blame me for the whole situation and feel sorry for him. People
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  • that used to be close to both of us are now acting judgy and distant. I'm so annoyed and embarrassed that I don't even wanna talk about it to clear the air. He knows what he did, if he's leaving out the part where I specifically told
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  • him not to tell anyone, especially no one at work, that's his problem. Until last week, two coworkers (that both Thomas and I were pretty close with) mentioned Thomas telling everyone
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  • about something unrelated, and I said, "Oh yeah, that's Thomas' favorite. Telling everyone everything." I gave them a look, and they smiled at me in a way that told me they knew what I meant. "...Even when you
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  • specifically ask him not to," I added. One of them said, "No, your bestie Emmy told us," while giggling. I thought she was joking and knew she wasn't telling the truth because of the way she
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  • said it. I just kinda rolled my eyes and walked away. Then yesterday, somehow it came up again (honestly can't remember how). A different coworker told me that Emmy has been telling everyone that I
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  • walked up to her and confided in her that I hooked up with him. Emmy has been saying she didn't ask for the information and was surprised when I told. her. No fucking wonder
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  • everyone thinks I'm a stone-cold heartless bitch. Why the fuck would I be mad at him for telling our coworkers if I also told our coworkers??? What the fuck Emmy? What sucks is that Emmy was honestly my favorite coworker to
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  • talk to and hang out with. She's closest to me in age and interests, and we even share some mutual friends (albeit distant) outside of work. I can understand why a dude would go bragging to everyone about how he got laid.
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  • That's typical. This bitch constructed a lie to make me look bad, made sure she wouldn't be held accountable ("please don't tell anyone I told you"), all while acting like my friend.
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  • So yeah, I'm an idiot for getting so involved and shitting where I eat, I'm telling you guys because I don't plan to stir the pot by confronting her about it. Don't shit where you eat, don't trust your coworkers, cautionary tale
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  • winceypoo Emmy isn't your friend. She used your secret as social currency and then changed the story to keep herself looking innocent.
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